frequently asked questions

How can I meet you?

The first step for you to take if you'd like to meet me is to send me a proper, respectful, and complete inquiry. This means that your message to me includes at the very least your name as well as the desired duration and location (city) of our date. Preferrably, you'll also include some information about yourself. Extra points if you've properly read my website and are right away able to provide me with your preferred methods of verification and deposit payment. Altnernatively, you can also fill out my contact form. If you do so, please note that if you've entered email as your preferred way of communication, my response may have found it's way into your spam box. Please be sure to check there too before you contact me again.

Is there anything I can do to make our meeting (extra) special?

In order to make our meeting extra special and memorable, I'd say it's most important that you've done your due diligence. There's few things I appreciate more in this life than someone who's well educated and well-prepared - and this goes for our meeting as well. Show me that you've not just looked at my pictures, but that you've read the information on my ads and/or website. My interests; which may lead to topics we may find each other in, or challenge each other in. My preferences date wise; to make me feel seen in the ways I'd most like to meet you. And if you'd really like to stand out, next to manners, gallantry, inquisitiveness, and placing an importance on an organic and natural flow of our interaction (as do I).... You can always sweep me off my feet just a little bit more by bringing me a gift (or for those who'd like to make an exquisite impression before we've even met... to have a look at my wishlist and get me a gift. I promise I'll wear/bring it to our meeting 😉 Feel free to have a look at my 'Wishlist' page for inspiration )

What does your ideal (first) date look like?

My ideal (first) date is first and foremost coloured by a mutual interest in getting to know each other and building our further interaction on that. Partly for that purpose, I absolutely love an extended fine dining date as it gives us ample of opportunity to get to know each other and discover all the ways in which we can meet. The second part of this preference (I must be honest) lays in my deep love for exquisite dining experiences. I simply adore refinement in beauty in all ways - and this includes food. Invite me to a fine dining experience, and just see how that opens and softens me up, how we start to build our anticipation and excitement for each other from the moment we first sit down. I love a tease, and I love little more than a setting wherein we can do that with full attention for each other and the experience we're sharing together. Yet... if you desire to stand out even more, you'll find that as a soft and feminine woman I love to be spoiled. My most ideal date would be one wherein we meet for lunch, go shopping together for something you'd like to see me in later on, and see where the night takes us from there 😉 Notwithstanding my true desires and happiness that stands from the above, I'm also very happy to meet you for dates that do not include the aforementioned. Those are some exquisite experiences that I absolutely love - yet at the end of the day, your level of respect, gallantry, generosity and open communication are what makes our time together most meaningful. However - a small gesture goes a long way. For a beautiful (first or continued) expression, feel free to bring me a gesture of appreciation. This can range from anywhere between some flowers or chocolates to something (in any price category) of my wishlist.

We’re a couple and not sure how to go about this, can you give us any pointers?

Since I’ve started in this industry, some of my most beautiful and profound dates have been with couples. Some couples have seen me whilst they’ve met with other women/people or providers before, yet for most inviting me into their relationship this has been a first experience for either one or both of them. Firstly, I’d like for you to know that I would be beyond honoured to be a part of this experience for you. As someone who’s experienced with both polyamory and open relating, I fully understand the level of trust and vulnerability involved in a meeting like this, as well as the nerves that can come into play there. In my experience (both on a personal and professional level), I really do believe that communication here is key. If you’d like to prepare well for a meeting with me (or another provider or third), the importance of discussing possible and potential scenarios with your partner cannot be understated. Based on my experience, I do feel comfortable guiding you in this conversation, but it really do helps when you are aware of what you’d find exciting, acts you’d like to experience, things you think you’ll find exciting but also a little bit scary, or acts between me and your partner that you feel might be exciting but also feel like a little bit much. When you invite me into your relationship (in whichever form this may be), I will always also open this conversation with you. Please know that it is also always okay to change your mind during our time together - the best experiences with inviting someone into your relationship are those coloured by both exploration and honest communication. After all, wouldn’t you feel best, as a couple, knowing you’ve been honest about what you felt, rather than afterwards feeling that things have been too much? With my background in both coaching and in tantra, I feel confident that I can guide you through much of this process. In my opinion, the best mindset to adopt in a situation like this is one coloured by curiosity and exploration - our eyes are not on ‘the prize’ (whatever this may look like), but the way in which we are spending this time together. In this way, I’ve had numerous experiences with couples wherein I’ve been the first third person they’ve invited into this very intimate space together. The potential for a beautiful and very special (and fun) time together is enormous - and I’d be honoured to be a part of that.

I’m x years old/ look like x, etc/ is this an issue for you?

I am first and foremost attracted to the ways in which you compose yourself and in which you treat me. I can honestly say that I do not care much for the way you look - as long as your hygiene is proper and you are well-taken care of in that regard. The most important things here are our connection - as a pansexual, I am attracted to you as a person. Treat me with respect and adoration, and I will meet you deeply in that, and you will find that that is where the spark of our attraction will ignite. As long as you treat me well, you'll find I'll be genuinely attracted to you and it will show in our interaction.

What attracts you most in a suitor?

The qualities I value most in a suitor are gallantry, generosity, attentiveness, respect, and a genuine desire for the both of us to not only be comfortable, but to have the best time possible. You'll find that you reap what you sow - the more you invest in me (time, energy, generosity wise), the more you'll find I open up to you. I'll always be fully present with you, and I hope you'll be that way with me too so that we can have the most beautiful and profound time together.

Are you available to meet in Brussels (or any other city?)

Even though I am based in Amsterdam, I visit Belgium regularly. I am always available for dates in Brussels for dates of 5+ hours, or in Antwerp for 4+ hours. If you'd like to meet for a shorter period, you'll have to await my tours (which I aim to make happen every other month at the minimum). However, all my tours to all locations (within the Benelux, Europe, or Worldwide) are subject to pre-bookings. This also means that the surest way to meet me in your city is to take the initiative and to arrange that for yourself 😉 My regular tour locations include Brussels, Antwerp, London, and in the near future Zurich.

I'd like to meet you together with a friend of yours - is this possible?

As a bi-sexual woman, I absolutely love meeting you with one of my close and gorgeous friends! You can find information of my closest friends who I work with most regularly on my duo page. If you're interested in meeting together, please let me know. I'll be more than happy to facilitate this for you.